
One of my favorite past times is to destroy a light hearted fun moment with my friends at a social gathering, and turn it into a philosophical discussion. I just can't resist! This tendency sometimes spoils the fun, but often also causes my friends to think on a deeper level..for example, my friend Kalpana blogged about her
Philosophy of life after we chatted about it. So... it's only fair that I now share mine. So here it is...behold: The Meaning of Life!
PART I. WHAT IS LIFE ALL ABOUT?Let's be real. For all practical purposes, we live only once. Even if you believe in reincarnation, then the fact that you can't remember any of your other lives negates their relevance in terms of your personal experience. So...since you only live once...it's all about living life to the fullest. I believe in experiencing life as much as you possibly can. That doesn't necessarily mean be as happy as you can. Happiness is big part of it, of course... people that allow themselves to waste years of their lives being angry or depressed are wasting life.
However, I do believe that sometimes it's okay to be unhappy if it may enable you to later experience some of the peaks in life - those times of greatest happiness. Thus I do not subscribe to the "play it safe" school of thought. Classic examples of this mistake are:
* Never leaving your home town for fear of loneliness.
* Not taking a chance on your dream job for fear of failure.
* Not breaking out of your shell because you might embarrass yourself.
* Not telling someone that you have romantic feelings for her/him for fear of rejection.
* Not having a great, memorable experience because you might be judged.
* Not fixing a sub-par relationship with a loved one because the conversation would be awkward.
Here is the fundamental problem with all the above approaches toward life. You are going to DIE one day! you have...lets say 70-80 years fully enjoyable years on earth, and that's a bit optimistic (there could be an accident or a terrorist attack...you don't want your last thought to be..."why didn't I just try?"). Playing it safe is a foolish way to spend your few years on earth.
So there we are...live life to the fullest. Experience the broadest possible range of life that you can. Meet as many type of people that you can. Have as many types of jobs/careers/hobbies as you can. See as much of the world as you can. Challenge yourself by living the rough life, but then also challenge yourself by living the high life. Get sad or lonely at times? So what...you took that risk so that you could experience something...you'll get past it.
To clarify, I am NOT suggesting that we should always take the risky route. Playing it safe sometimes is the best way to maximize life. For example, if you really want to go bungee jumping, but would also like to make it home to see the family...you may choose to skip that risk. Or a father who chooses not to start a new business so because his current job's steady income is the safe, secure way to provide for the family. So, the safe route is sometimes better, but it shouldn't be taken out of fear, and it should be based on your own priorities, and your personal risk-return tradeoff.
Living life to the fullest ensures that the
personal value of your life (PVL) is as high as possible. In other words...the value of your life to yourself. That's the first half of my philosophy.
PART II. WHAT IS RIGHT AND WRONG?
So if we are living life to the fullest, does that mean that there are no limits? That we should just cut loose and go crazy? No...that's where the Part 2 of my Philosophy comes into play: Ethics. Ethics help us to maximize
the value of our lives to the universe (VLU).To me right and wrong comes down to the following:
1. Non violence. Cause as little pain as possible. Avoid causing physical harm, emotional harm, psychological harm. This applies to people you know, people you don't know, and even animals.2. Truth. Avoid deceit as much as possible. 99.99% of the time, deceit robs someone else of their fair shot at happiness. Deceit includes cheating on a test, or theft also.
3. Help people; help the world. It's not enough to avoid causing pain....put a smile on as many faces as you can. Volunteer, improve society, invent a clean renewable fuel technology. Touch as many hearts as you can. Become an unforgettable memory whenever you can.4. Take care of your loved ones. To some people, you just mean a hell of a lot more. Be there for them, defend them, support them, vigilantly make sure they are happy.That about covers it. Anything else you can think of...it probably falls into this somewhere if you think about it.
Of course the usual questions are...what if any of these things come into conflict? Well you just have to use judgment. Simple example: Some loser guy disrespects your sister or wife. Do you hit him? Ethical values #1 and #4 come into conflict here....but certainly, if the disrespect is extreme enough, hell yeah, I hit him!
Another possible area of conflict is between Part I and Part II of the philosophy. For me, living life to the fullest would mean that I try as many types of food as possible. But Part II suggests that by avoiding eating meat, I minimize harm. So I have to pass judgment, and it turns out that the higher VLU is worth the trade off against my slightly reduced PVL, so I choose to be vegetarian.
SummaryTo summarize, the meaning of life is to make your best effort to maximize the sum: PVL + VLU. Yes! I even broke life down to a mathematical equation! (I am a true Chicago GSB graduate, baby!)
Questions or thoughts about this? Please enter a comment and I'll gladly put in a follow up post.